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Why I love a "young soul"
Jul. 6th, 2013 05:57 pmI'm older than Tori, by 4 years. Huh, I never appreciated that the difference in our ages is only 76 days different to the difference between my parents ages. Heh.
Anyway, I'm not that much older than Tori. But sometimes it feels I'm decades older. I'm the staid, careful, steady one. She's the youthful, adventurous, exploratory one. It's almost the "old soul" "young soul" archetype. (If you believe that sort of thing; I don't. But it makes a useful analogy in this instance).
We were in the yard for July 4th (Tori grilled food; I hid from the sun) and I was geeking out a little (Doctor Who story lines, plot lines) and Tori repeated "I find your mind sexy". She says that a lot. Fortunately for me; the rest of me is pretty "meh".
Then she said "I don't know why you love you; it's not for my mind"... which dumbfounded me. Tori's not as smart as me in some aspects, but she's hella-smarter than me in others. My immediate thought; "why is she feeling insecurity in this area?".
In some respects, she's right. I don't love her for her brain; I love _her_. The whole gestalt of her. Her mind, her heart, her klutziness, her "young soul". It all adds up to a beautiful wonderful lady that everyone would love.
If I was to evaluate her best attribute, it would be her heart. She is so loving, so caring, so open to people; she will go out of her way to help people, to her own detriment. She embraces people and looks after them. This past month has demonstrated this, in how much she's cared for me during during my Cancer Scare. And she doesn't realise just how far "above and beyond" she's gone; for her it's just a natural result of who she is.
But just because it's her best attribute, doesn't mean she's deficient elsewhere. She's smart, she's quick, she learns. Yes, she makes mistakes I don't, but I make mistakes she doesn't. No; I don't love her for her mind. I love _her_.
Why do I love her? How can I _not_ love her? She is the most wonderful person I know.
The question is never why I love her; the question is always "why does she love me"
Anyway, I'm not that much older than Tori. But sometimes it feels I'm decades older. I'm the staid, careful, steady one. She's the youthful, adventurous, exploratory one. It's almost the "old soul" "young soul" archetype. (If you believe that sort of thing; I don't. But it makes a useful analogy in this instance).
We were in the yard for July 4th (Tori grilled food; I hid from the sun) and I was geeking out a little (Doctor Who story lines, plot lines) and Tori repeated "I find your mind sexy". She says that a lot. Fortunately for me; the rest of me is pretty "meh".
Then she said "I don't know why you love you; it's not for my mind"... which dumbfounded me. Tori's not as smart as me in some aspects, but she's hella-smarter than me in others. My immediate thought; "why is she feeling insecurity in this area?".
In some respects, she's right. I don't love her for her brain; I love _her_. The whole gestalt of her. Her mind, her heart, her klutziness, her "young soul". It all adds up to a beautiful wonderful lady that everyone would love.
If I was to evaluate her best attribute, it would be her heart. She is so loving, so caring, so open to people; she will go out of her way to help people, to her own detriment. She embraces people and looks after them. This past month has demonstrated this, in how much she's cared for me during during my Cancer Scare. And she doesn't realise just how far "above and beyond" she's gone; for her it's just a natural result of who she is.
But just because it's her best attribute, doesn't mean she's deficient elsewhere. She's smart, she's quick, she learns. Yes, she makes mistakes I don't, but I make mistakes she doesn't. No; I don't love her for her mind. I love _her_.
Why do I love her? How can I _not_ love her? She is the most wonderful person I know.
The question is never why I love her; the question is always "why does she love me"
