sweh | A caring arsehole? (Reply)

A discussion came up on another forum about people be insensitive, and if they make the effort to avoid it then they're not really insensitve at all.

Of course, This is the old story; if you think you may be insensitive then you're not... only insensitive guys have no idea that they may be insensitive.

Bluh.

Dunno.

I've now had 3 women cry on my shoulder and tell their heart's woes to me and I've listened and petted and said words and stuff. They've told me that I'm a good guy who listens and stuff... but I personally feel I'm merely emulating the behaviour required, working on approximations and guestimates as to what a caring person should feel... I'm not "natural" at it.

I'm a bastard. I piss people off. I make morons at work cry. Me arsehole!

But then... isn't a caring "sensitive" guy someone who will try to overcome their limitations for people they care about?

*wibble* the concept of me being a caring guy... it messes with my self image!

I love the people I'm in a relationship with, but I don't know if I can be the person they need. I try; I guess; I try to be the person they need and I should be.

But am I? Or am I merely emulating?

I have no idea.